I’m sure many of you, like me, have been advised to let go of this world.. but what if you do the opposite? What if you let go of God rather than the world? What if you try to take control? The answer is you’ll eventually fall flat on your face, believe me.
A few days ago I was on the brink of a mental breakdown, my heart and mind wanted two different things with regards to the closure of a fiery chapter. To get some clarity I asked a dear friend which enabled me to put a lot of things into perspective.
For a long while now I’ve been saying I miss myself which may sound a tad weird. Through trials I’ve become someone I don’t recognise. I yearn for the positivity that I once had and the level of faith that empowered me to trust God when nothing but chaos surrounded me. I miss who I was and in some aspects, kind of hate the person I’ve become.
“Whatever you’re feeling now, you’re doing the damage to yourself.“ ~ Wise friend
The above statement is what hit me the most. I’ve a habit of patching up a broken boat with a paper towel. It stops the water from flooding the boat initially, but it’s a temporary fix. Eventually it’ll flood, you’ll struggle to keep your head above the waters and you’ll be gasping for air before you know it.
Inevitably, I hit that gasping and spluttering; I gave up and I accepted that I was now beyond help. There weren’t people standing there with life jackets ready to rescue me from my sinking boat, there wasn’t another boat to hop in to for safety and since I’d lost sight of God, I disappeared further into darkness with almost zero hope of taking another breath and seeing the light again.
I was broken. In fact I was shattered. Eventually, I realised that while the initial problem was in fact external matters that had led to my downfall, the problem was now more than that – it was an internal battle, which in itself was a bitter pill to swallow. I had to close chapters for good rather than attempting to fix them in the pouring rain. They damaged me initially, but now I was damaging myself by holding on to things that couldn’t be fixed.
You see, by living in the past you aren’t letting go and by doing so can cause you an even bigger downfall in the long-run. By focussing on the present and accepting that the past cannot be changed we open a whole new path for ourselves. If we let go, we can let God. If we let God, we can heal.
Most of all, take care of yourself. It’s not a bad thing to be less selfless. You see, I have this issue with caring too much about other people’s feelings and completely abandon my own self in the process of doing so. I’ve been hurting for a while now and one of the issues I’ve been dealing with has been back to haunt me time and time again because I allowed it to. Learn to give yourself to those who appreciate it rather than those who’d trample on you in a heartbeat. Overtime you have to ask yourself how much longer you can walk over shattered glass to rescue those who couldn’t care less how much you’re bleeding. Let your trials shape you, but not break you.
It’s a cold world out here. We aren’t in control, not really. We submit to this world and attempt control our own destiny but in reality it is an illusion, it’s all an illusion as God is the controller of all. Nothing happens without His will, and His will only. Let Him take the reins.
~ Ya Muqalib al Quloob, thabbit qalbi alaa deenik.
O Turner of Hearts, make my heart firm upon Your religion.
My week off from school was the breath of fresh air I needed during what felt like a month of being pushed and pushed and pushed.
It finally felt like Ramadan. Without the demands of class work, I took the week to get back to projects I had postponed for months.
One of them is actually something I started last Ramadan. During my time of the month last year, I switched from reading Qur’an to going through a dua book my mom lent me for the week. I found so many prayers, for every moment of life you could think of, and decided to write some choice duas on paper decorated with henna-inspired borders and then hang them on my wall. The goal was to fill a whole wall with these dua notes, but I only managed to finish two last year. There are 28 duas in total that I wanted to include. I got eight done last year, and transcribed seven more this week.
It was nice to get something done that served both as a decoration for my room and a way for me to keep prayer more present in my life. I even had a crazy subhanallah moment. I was just getting started on the page dedicated to duas for when it rains and just at that moment, it started thunderstorming for the first time all day..سبحان الله
As much as I really wanted to fill the air with music as I worked, I opted for peaceful silence as I carved each Arabic letter into the paper. I’ll admit, while it was nice to have a chill week, I really missed my music and entertainment. For those who are new – in addition to fasting from food, I also take the month to fast from listening to music and watching TV/youtube. I have a couple of exceptions, like Sid and Dina or Trevor Noah, but in general the fast from music-related content is a significant struggle for me. In the past week, the season finale of one of my Korean shows aired and it killed me to see people online talking about it and knowing that I would have to wait a few more weeks to watch it..الحمد لله
Alas, my time off is coming to an end with Summer classes picking up this week. While I am excited to be starting the next stage of my learning, I wish it could have waited just one more week so that I could fully soak up the last five days of Ramadan. I’ve only gotten to Surah Nisaa’ in the Qur’an (page 77 out of 600), and I probably won’t have time to get much further with class starting.
Sometimes that resentment creeps in towards having to be in school or work and not be able to just stay home and be one with my past Ramadan habits, but then I remember those moms who chase around kids 24/7 or those people who work 12 hours a day just to be able to afford iftar for their families. I had the luxury the past couple years to have basically the entire fasting day to do as I pleased. Most people don’t have that.
I frequently need to remind myself that I am not abandoning remembrance of Allah when I leave the house. I have the ability to bring Him into my work. It’s all just a matter of mindset, and learning to see my work as another way of loving and praising God..الله أكبر
Bismillah hir rahman nir raheem – In the name of Allah, the most gracious, the most merciful.
I write this blog post whilst dwelling on my strength as a person, my dedication and commitment to the religion of Islam. I do not question my beliefs but more so whether I do enough to practice my religion.
What led me to ponder this was my bus journey to school, see at the moment i am working through listening to an audio translation of the Quran (The holy book of Islam for those who do not know). Only in the 2nd chapter named Al-Baqarah i found a verse that inspired me to want to better myself.
“Enjoin you Al-Birr (piety and righteousness and each and every act of obedience to Allah) on the people and you forget (to practice it) yourselves, while you recite the Scripture [the Taurat (Torah)]! Have you then no sense?”
(The Quran: Al-Baqarah 2:44)
No matter how much we try we cannot be perfect, there will always be more that we can do and Allah (SWT) in his infinite wisdom knows and understands this, for example lowering the times we are required to pray from 50 times, to 5 times a day yet still being able to reap the rewards of the full 50 prayers! Subhanallah (Glory to God).
Yet we still seek more. May Allah forgive us!
I, myself do not pray 5 times a day and Allah knows the guilt i feel afterwards! I often question whether i am worthy to call myself a Muslim if i cannot even perform the bare minimum myself! This is what struck me in the verse, the fact i openly discuss Islam with non-muslims yet do not fulfill the basic requirements.
Some may argue that it is hypocritical of me to post about making change if i am a certain way myself, however this is mainly to shed light on a situation many perhaps do not talk about.
Inshallah things will change…
The message here is to practice what you preach!
For now i wish my readers the best in whatever it is they do and non-muslim or Muslim wish them peace and clarity in their lives.
assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
I was asked to write a text for an interreligious Iftar last week. That´s why it´s exceptionally in german. So this blog can be finally be called trilingual. (Maybe I could add some other languages…). It´s actually not the version I presented at that evening but closer to the original one. (The text was edited a few times to fit into the framework of the event.)
Since Ramadan is nearing to its end I thought it would be nice to still upload it.
Actually I planned to write about this in the beginning of Ramadan where it probably what probably would have been more properly – in a deeper and broader way. But since I tried to stay away from most electronic media and had to fight with some study assignments I decided to postone it. Better late than never, right?
A chance to prepare something deeper for next year :)
Enjoy your last Ramadan days and hold on to the positiv spirit!
Eid is fast approaching: the celebrations with family and friends, the mouth-watering food, and of course, the presents!
But obviously, that’s not all! On the day of Eid, we remember Allah (SWT) as well, for He blessed us with this beautiful day.
On the day of Eid, we remember and praise Allah (SWT) by reciting the Takbir of Eid.
Let’s learn the Takbir of Eid and its translation!
Here, you can download the Arabic and its English translation to cut apart. This can be reused as many times as you want, and will help in learning the order of Takbir as well as the translation of each line.
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Eid Mubarak, everyone! May you all have a happy and blessed day :)
Received the below message on Whatsup, so credit goes to the writer, for adding colors to misery, sadness, lost of hope and putting faith in Allah / God.
“They said, ‘We are missing the king’s goblet. Whoever brings it shall receive a camel’s load; that I guarantee.'” [12: 72]
There’s something very fascinating about the story of Prophet Yusuf (Alayhis Salam/Peace Be Upon Him). Certain things that were negative at the beginning of Prophet Yusuf’s life and which he had no control over, come back at the end but this time in a good light with him given control and power over it. Take the fact that his brothers threw him into a well; a place holding water, and this was a plot they devised as a team to get rid of him. In the end, Prophet Yusuf devised his own plan to get his beloved brother back by using the king’s cup; an instrument which holds water (the symbolism here shouldn’t escape you!) and which caused the brothers stress and divided them.
Consider Prophet Yusuf’s shirt that the brothers doused in sheep’s blood in order to hurt their father and cut off his heart and hope from Prophet Yusuf. In the end, Prophet Yusuf used his own shirt which not only brought back his father’s sight, but also removed the hurt and despair in his heart and reconnected them. Consider the fact that as a boy, Prophet Yusuf was bought as a slave with mere coins but just a few years later, he is the financial minister and no-one could dare put a value on him. Instead they all humbled themselves to him as a master of his field.
This is not just a story and these are not just coincidences that Allah is mentioning. He is teaching us realities that He’s set in the life of this world. A negative thing that happens in your life may very well open up doors of positivity later on. Something that you’ve no control over may soon fall within your control and you get to use it for your benefit. Life is dynamic and constantly changing, tables turn and events come back on themselves and arrive on your shores again. You may not have had control before, but now you do. You may not have known what to do before, but now you do. As Prophet Yusuf says later on, O Allah You are the Originator of the Universe… You return and repeat things. O Allah bless us with the understanding and ability to do what You want us to do and is beneficial for us in this life and the Next, ameen.
Laylatul Qadr is in the last 10 nights of Ramadaan and the correct view is that it changes each year and Allah Knows Best. So strive hard in each of these nights.
It starts from Maghrib until Fajr time so busy yourself with acts of worship!
It’s better than 1,000 months as in your action will be multiplied by 1,000 months reward.
Ibn Abbas (ra) said on this night, everything that is going to be decreed for the next year will be written such as rizq, lives, deaths.
The best of actions are to pray Salaah, read Qur’an and make du’a. One can also do dhikr, give sadaqa and other good actions.
There is a difference of opinion if the multiplication is for all actions or just Salaah.
Additional points of benefit:
Ibn Rajab (rh) mentions some of the people of the past would have a shower after Maghrib so they are at their most beautiful for these more beautiful nights and some would wear their best clothes and look their best, buying special clothes for these nights! So make an effort for Allah, insha’Allah!
My Dearest Daughter,
As I sit here, on the terrace, gazing at the stars, I wonder why we get so disappointed in life. It might be because we get too attached to this dunya (world), letting our lives revolve around it and all that it has to offer. We get into a habit of constantly expecting from others, and when our expectations are not fulfilled, we lose hope, get upset and disappointed.
However, we must remember, that this world will never be able to completely fulfill all our expectations. Therefore, my dear, in order to avoid disappointment, you need to detach yourself from this world, its people, its things and the false expectations it gives you. By this I do not mean to completely cut yourself off from it, but to detach to the extent that you don’t get affected by any of these disappointments.
Your heart is far too precious to be attached to temporary illusions, so attach it to the one Who is eternal and Who never disappoints. However, in order to attach your heart to Him you must first detach it from everything else.
My dear, always lay your hopes and dependencies with Allah, He will never let you down because Allah loves you more in a moment than anyone could in a lifetime, and He always will. <3
Lots of love,
Today’s ayah is a reminder as well as a warning to all of mankind from Allah swt.O you who believe! Enter perfectly in Islam (by obeying all the rules and regulations of the Islamic religion) and follow not the footsteps of Shaitan (Satan). Verily! He is to you a plain enemy. (Al Baqarah 2:208)
In this ayah, Allah swt commands the believers who enter the folds of Islam, to accept Islam in all its entirety and in all its perfection. That means to take in and accept all the rules and laws that Allah swt has laid down for us as a way of life. When you believe in Allah swt, you believe in Him completely. You believe His swt’s word, the Quran and follow it to the word. You follow the Prophet (pbuh) and his teachings as he pbuh was the walking Quran, who pbuh is the best man ever to walk on the face of earth.
It cannot and should not be that you accept a part of Islam and leave other parts, to your liking. You don’t have this selective authority over the commands of Allah. Unless and until you take Islam as a whole, live by its rules and regulations, keep away from what you are supposed to keep away from, in all aspects of your life, your personal, professional and social life, you cant be living a true Muslim’s life. Only when you follow the rules of Allah swt and live by the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) can you taste the sweetness of faith, of imaan.
This path of complete submission is not as difficult as we have made it to be. Just have your priorities right, know what is more important to you in your life, this duniya or the aakhira. Once you know who and what you are living for, things will become easy to understand and follow. For a small example, and just because it is on top of my mind, lets take the hijab. We know, we are commanded to observe hijab by Allah swt. As believing women, we should be following this command hands down, without any questions asked! Just the fact that Allah swt has commanded us to do, should be enough. Now, if you start thinking that, it is not possible for me, or it is too hot, or it is so outdated a thing, I have to keep up with the fashion trends, I am not good Muslimah or I am too young! and many such excuses that we come up with, against wearing the hijab. These are just that. Excuses!
When you have faith, when you believe in Allah swt , you ought to follow His commands too. You can’t possibly be doing away with them. Yes, you are offering your prayers, you are reciting the Quran, you are an excellent Muslimah, Ma sha Allah, better than some of the hijabis out there, but no, that doesn’t mean you will not be held to account for this disobedience. Prepare an answer for yourself, because Allah swt will ask you about it.What is your reason, what is holding you back?
This was just an example that can be extended to all other commands that we turn blind eyes to! And for what, for this world and to keep up with its notions of success, happiness and modernism. So much for a liberal mind! Understand what kind of a deal you have gotten yourself into. Success, in these times, comes for a very high price. It might cost you your relationship with Allah and your place in Jannah. Ensure that you know what you are doing with yourself.
No doubt, none of us is the perfect Muslim that we should be. Certainly not in these times, is this blessing a common one. But of course there are people, who have been guided by Allah and who take His word as the only command they follow, come what may. There are the strong believers of Islam. We should strive to be like them. I am sure there is someone around you, who is just the Muslim you want to be, for their deeds of course.
We all undergo different levels in our faith. In our journey to Allah, there are many milestones, that need to be reached, crossed and conquered over. You may not be able to conquer all at once, but gradually, if you are persistent, you will, by the help of Allah swt. But there is no order to it, when it comes to obeying Allah swt’s command. It is not like when and only when you read your five daily salaah, should you put on your hijab. It is not that only after you quit sinning, will you go praying in the mosque or grow a beard for that. It should not be like that.
It can be simultaneous acts of obedience and worship. One doesn’t have to be a condition for the other to follow. Do as much you can, in whatever ways you can. You never know what act of worship, or which obedience will open the doors of mercy for you. Begin, with something, and just do it. No one should pull you down on your path to Allah. It is your journey, you have to walk the steps, however small they may be, you are the one who has to walk the walk! No one else will or can do it for you.
If there are negative people around you, who are pulling you down by things like you are not good enough to become a hijabi, or grow a beard, or pray in the mosque, or they smirk at you, say bad things about you or your past, turn a deaf ear to them. But turn to Allah in sincere repentance and seek help from Him. Let not such things lower your motivation or bring you down or make you sad. Allah loves you as long as you are sincere in your acts of worship. He will never shut His doors of mercy on you, as long as you keeping knocking and coming back to Him in repentance.
Things and people like these are just the tactics of Satan, who is an open enemy to us, like mentioned in the ayah. It is his job to pull you away from the right path. It is his job to make you stumble and fall on the journey to Allah. It is his job to make you feel less of yourself, and despair of Allah swt’s mercy by magnifying your sins. That is what he and his minions are here for. To take us away from Allah swt. Don’t fall into his trap. Know your enemy and then fight him in the face. Sometimes you will loose, but if you keep up the fight, if you keep fighting consistently, nothing can prevent you from knocking him down!
It might look difficult now, but have a sincere intention of obeying Allah swt in everything. Make a sincere intention that you will live your life as guided by the Quran and Sunnah, to accept and live by Islam in its entirety and not by selective perception of what the world around you choses for you or you yourself choose!
May Allah swt grant us an understanding of His religion, May He swt make it easy for us to be obedient to Him. May He swt make us see the truth in things and may He swt make it easy for us to keep on the straight path. Ya Allah, your help we seek in the matters of our deen, duniya and aakhira. And You alone can help us, so please guide us on our journey to You. Perfect our faith for us.
‘I am at my servant’s expectations, and I am with him whenever he calls onto me. If he draws near me one span of a hand, I draw near him a cubit; if he draws near me a cubit, I draw near him an ell; and if he approaches my path walking, I approach him hurriedly.’ [Islamic Holy Tradition]
I have always been struck over and over again with the above holy tradition. Truly, no one ever knows the true meaning of faith except when he or she gets to know how it’s like to have a heart inclination towards solitude for the sake of Allah’s remembrance. When this happens to any person, he starts to experience some overwhelming feelings of kindness, goodness, and piety. He begins to prefer praying over having fun. His presence amidst the people is of a physical nature, but his soul, heart and mind are somewhere else, he is always seeking the companionship of his Lord.
Nothing of this worldly life seems to matter any more, this life is just a quick trip which he has to make in order to reach his destination. It’s enough to remember Allah to be relieved of all worries and fears. Even when any tribulation befalls a person in this state, he shows patience for he knows that Allah is watching over him and listening to his supplications.
“When My servants ask you (O Muhammad) concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them): I listen to the prayers of every suppliant when he calls on Me.” [The Qur’an (2:186)].
“Rely upon the Ever-Living who does not die and exalt Allah with His praise.” [The Qur’an (25:58)].
Those who are righteous taught us that: “How poor are the people who depart this life without tasting the best of its bests, that is Loving Allah and knowing His remembrance.” Imam Hassan Al-Basry said: “Allah’s beloved are those who taste this life’s blessings with what they have known of invoking upon and whispering to their Lord, and with the beauty they have found in their hearts of His remembrance.”
It was once told to an old Muslim Bedouin that he was extremely ill and there was no cure for his illness, so he said: “To whom shall I return if I die?” They answered him: “To Allah,” he then said: “Then why should I worry from returning to the one from whom I only see what’s good and beautiful?”
Written by: Ehab Shawky
In Response to: Relieved
Saeed Ibn al Musayyib would say, the one who prays Maghrib and Esha in jamaat has caught Laylatul Qadr! So, strive to pray them in jamaat!
“And let there be [arising] from you a nation inviting to all that is good (Islam), enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong, and those will be the successful.” – (Quran 3:104)
The glorious Quran, the religion of Islam. All from the perspective of a teenager, this is what this blog serves to be. This blog serves as a platform for both muslims and non-muslims alike to read of my opinions and gather perspective from either someone of a different faith or different background.
I will try to be as inclusive and considerate of opinions as possible, to make this light hearted and include humour but also getting a point across, I will try to deal with topics maturely and answer any questions anyone has about me or Islam in an appropriate way.
This blog secondarily serves as somewhere a non-muslim can ask questions but I would like to emphasise that this does not mean I am going to be allowing aggressive debates in the comments but rather a civil and constructive conversation!
The topics covered in my blog posts will not necessarily be ordered but rather spontaneous to my day or what it Is I am thinking about.
Finally I would like to thank my inspirations for making this blog, both the YouTube channels of:
I think my first blog post will be fairly quick in terms of a follow up inshallah, I hope you enjoy it and sincerely welcome any feedback you may have!
May Allah (SWT) Guide You!
Oleh Widyaretna Buenastuti
Mencari kacamata tanpa kacamata. Haduh. Perjuangan banget.
Perasaan tadi sebelum wudhu, kulepaskan kacamata bacaku dekat buku yang tengah kubaca. Tapi kok sekarang gak ada kelihatan warna batangnya yang ada kemerah-merahan. Minus mataku yang lumayan tinggi ditambah dengan kombinasi plus, membuat diriku hanya menghafal barang dari warna, karena itulah yang masih bisa kulihat dari mata rabun ini.
Sambil terus mencari, dalam hati aku berharap ada suatu aplikasi dari handphone buat Find My Eyeglasses. Jadi bisa ke track kacamatanya ada di mana. Ini ide terbersit dalam pemikiranku yang semoga beberapa tahun kedepan akan ada generasi generasi muda yang kreatif yang bisa mewujudkannya.
Sementara belum ada aplikasinya, metode praktis yang biasa aku terapkan adalah dengan Voice Command:
“Deeekk, tolong bantu carikan kacamata mama dong.”
Dan beberapa menit, ada kacamata yang diantarkan kehadapanku.
Namun, kali ini voice command pun tidak berfungsi karena the boys lagi pada ke masjid untuk sholat Isya dan tharawih. Akupun telah selesai sholat Isya dan aku butuh kaca mataku untuk membaca Quran sebelum memulai tharawihku. Dengan mukenah yang masih kupakai, rasanya seluruh isi rumah sudah kucoba untuk telusuri.
Mulai dari kamar mandi, saat aku berwudhu. Kemudian ke meja makan. Kesekitar kasur. Di sofa tempat aku tadi membaca buku. Kedapur, walau gak mungkin aku tadi mampir sana, tetep juga aku telusuri.
Astaghfirullohaladzim, susahnya bila diri ini tidak disiplin untuk menaruh kacamata pada tempatnya. Terlebih lagi bila semakin hari usia yang bertambah, tiada manusia yang dapat menolak akan datangnya rabun dekat. Badan boleh prima, wajah boleh terlihat muda, tapi kemampuan mata, gak akan mungkin bisa dilawan untuk tetap bisa 20/20. Sembari terus berdzikir kucoba mengingat ingat dimana kuletakan kacamataku.
Aku teringat saat memeriksakan mata ke dokter karena rasanya kacamata minus yang kupakai sudah tidak nyaman lagi untuk dipakai beraktifitas. Kebetulan yang memeriksa diriku adalah dokter muda yang dengan sabar mencoba mengganti-ganti lensa untuk memastikan tingkat kenyamanan diriku dalam melihat jauh. Ternyata ukuran kacamataku untuk rabun jauhnya masih benar. Kemudian iapun memeriksa data diriku, dan dengan senyum dan halus sekali ia pun mengatakan
“Ibu sudah tidak bisa menghindar, mendapatkan “plus” dari Allah sekarang.”
Dan aku pun tertegun. Penyangkalan diri langsung bergejolak.
“Masa sih, saya sudah harus pakai plus?”
Sang dokter pun hanya tersenyum dan memberikan resep +1.00 untuk kedua mata.
Selama ini cukup bangga tidak perlu pakai kacamata plus. Tapi rupanya ketetapan Allah memang tidak bisa di ganggu gugat lagi. Sejak itu, kaca mata baca pun menjadi salah satu item wajib yang harus ada dengan diriku, selain handphone dan uang bila hendak berpergian.
Saat harus mencari kacamata tanpa kacamata, benar-benar penuh perjuangan. Akhirnya kuputuskan untuk menunggu the boys aja pulang dari tharawih dan untuk sementara mencari kerjaan rumah yang bisa dikerjakan. Yang jelas, buku yang belum selesai kubacapun tidak mungkin kuselesaikan tanpa kaca mata bacaku.
Tak lama, terdengar suara pagar dibuka. Dan aku pun berlari ke pintu depan menyongsong suami dan anak-anak yang baru pulang dari masjid.
Setelah mengucapkan salam, suamiku bertanya, “Sayangku, seperti kehilangan sesuatu, ada apa?”
Padahal belum sempat aku bercerita, tapi sudah tertebak. Mungkin wajahku sudah mensiratkan butuh pertolongan dari para ksatriaku yang sekarang sudah berkumpul, sehingga suamiku bisa menebak kalau aku sedang mencari sesuatu.
“Aku cari kacamataku dari tadi.”
Dan mendadak mereka bertiga pun tertawa melihat diriku.
“Kok malah pada ketawa?”
Anakku yang paling kecil pun didaulat berbicara.
“Mama coba pegang kepala mama deh.”
Astaghfirullohaladzim. Ternyata kacamata bacaku dari tadi bertengger di atas kepalaku.
Hahaha… Serunya mencari kacamata tanpa kacamata. Alhamdulillahirrobil alamin sudah ketemu, dan aku tetap berdoa semoga Allah akan memberikan inspirasi kepada generasi muda untuk membuat aplikasi pencari kacamata yang tercecer, sehingga memudahkan orang-orang pelupa seperti diriku ini.
Allahuakbar, betapa ‘cerdas’nya diri ini. Geliku menertawakan diri sendiri.
Semoga bisa mendapatkan keberkahan hari-hari terakhir Ramadhan dan senantiasa bersyukur atas nikmat Allah.
@Wids 24 Ramadhan 1438 H
19 June 2017
Getting through life today is tough with all the disturbances and frustrations. When it gets too much for us to handle though, some of us react by being harsh towards others. We lose our sense of gentleness.
However Allah wants us to take the nobler path, loves for us to be refined and not vulgar and would reward those who develop this trait.
“O Aisha, Allah is gentle and He loves gentleness. He rewards for gentleness what is not granted for harshness and He does not reward anything else like it.”
(Sahih Muslim 2593)
Our beloved Prophet (peace be upon him) even gives us another sweet reason to be gentle.
“You must be gentle. Verily, gentleness is not in anything except that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from anything except that it disgraces it.”
Even if we get the worst treatment, we must strive to be gentle. This is very difficult but achievable. Allah appreciates our effort. Here, He enjoins Prophet Musa ( upon him be peace) to be gentle in dealing with the greatest tyrant of the time! -Pharaoh even though he was not receptive of Musa’s divine message.
Speak to him mildly that perhaps he may remember or fear Allah.
(Surat Ta Ha 20:44)
With gentleness, we diffuse volatile situations and avoid escalation. With it, we can save a suicidal person. With it , we can change people’s views for good. It is not a sign of our stupidity but a nearness to our Lord and a way to earn His reward.
Being firm does not involve being harsh.
As hmans we are very much moulded by the environment as we are by nature. You can’t really help the circumstances of your birth but you can do a lot to determine yhe life you want to live. Thus, having the right influences help to shape who you become.
The people around you which these days include your online network have much impact in our lives. We have moved on from only conversations we are participating in. Now with all the overwhelming numbers of platforms, pages and boards, we are absorbing information we don’t even ask for at breakneck speed.
It is important therefore to keep good company. It is joining the gatherings of the righteous this last remaining days of Ramadhan. It is continuing this practice everyday onwards. It is trying to avoid people who do not help you grow unless you are helping them. It is maintaining a limit though, and knowing when the association is of no benefit and must be given up.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) had excellent companions and their being together greatly contributed to the success of Islam in its early days.
“A person is on the way of life (deen) of his close friend, so let people look into whom they take as close friends.”
(Sunan Abu Dawud)
“The example of a righteous and evil companion is like one who carries perfume and another who is a blacksmith. As for the one who carries perfume, he will either give you some perfume, you might buy it, or [at least] you will find a pleasing scent with him. As for the blacksmith, either he (the blacksmith) will burn his clothes, or you will find a hideous odour coming from him.”
وَأَحْسِنُوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ
Be good. Verily, Allah loves those who are good.